I apologize for the delayed response, I only check this site occasionally. I’m very sorry to hear about your situation.

I’m not sure how much I can help, but to quote some scriptures I mentioned before - Mark 9:23 “Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes” and Matthew 19:26 that “with God all things are possible.”

I don’t know if you’re a Christian, but God can give you confidence and strength to face her when you see her. Also, you can’t beg and make her change her mind. You can only tell her how you feel, that you forgive her, work on yourself, and be an example.

Also, here is a link to a site that is specific for couples in the military:
http://quest.marriagetoday.com/

I hope that helps some and that I helped point you in the right direction.

I’ll be praying for ya’ll. Additionally, I do want to thank you for your service to this country. Let it be known that there are a lot of people like me who truly appreciate your service.

The first thing I will say is - Don’t give up!

Like I mentioned previously, remember the scriptures Mark 9:23 “Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes” and Matthew 19:26 that “with God all things are possible.”

It’s good that you’re in counseling about your past (preferably with a Christian counselor). But your future does not have to be based on your past.

Keep praying for your husband’s change of heart and don’t quit. Seek out scriptures for what you need (like peace, rest, strength) and say them out loud every day. Be proactive before the negative feelings come and use them also when you start feeling down.

I hope that helps some and I’ll be praying for you both.

It was about 3 years ago that I began having enourmous self doubt that arose first about my job and then about a memory of sexual abuse that I have repressed for over 25 years. I never told my family or my husband because of the shame I felt until recently (within the last 3 months). But my husband still left. I am in counseling now to understand my feelings of anger, depression, and anxiety. I use to be a happy and heathly person when my husband and I meet and fell in love. Over the years, I have been stressed significantly by my career and the guilt I feel for not being there and giving in when my mother or sisters need help financially. I realize now that I was taking my frustration out on my husband and he evently had an emotional affair with a women who was just like I was when we meet, fell in love, and got married.

We have been together for 10 years and married for 5. I love my husband immensely and want our marriage to work. I have been woorking on myself but he does not appear to really care to speak with me. He did call me recently to tell me that he may be deployed and wanted to now how I felt about that. I am worried and I wish he did not have to go especially considering the state of our relationship. I cannot sleep sometimes and I am not sure if I should just give up. I don’t want to but I feel hopeless and helpless.I have been praying and asking God for strength, but it feels as though it is pointless.

I sometimes get “mixed” messages, because I am not sure if my husband really means what he says. He has not pursued any legal action. What do I do? Give up?

I apologize for the very delayed response.

That’s a difficult situation, when one of the spouses has given up on the marriage. But don’t you give up. God can turn it around, but He needs you in there, praying about it, committing it to Him, and taking the action that He tells you. Find some scriptures to stand on and confess those everyday over your marriage. And like I’ve mentioned to many others, find a Christian counselor that you both can go to. If your husband won’t go, go by yourself.

Remember, with God, all things are possible. That includes the turning around of your marriage.

I hope that helps and I’ll be praying for ya’ll!

Sorry to hear about your situation. First, I would say that if he’s beating you, that’s a dangerous situation and you should put some distance between the two of you. I’m not saying get a divorce, just get yourself out of harm’s way. You can separate yourself from him and his opportunities to beat you. Then, you need to seek out a Christian counselor who can help address this situation. This is not something I have experience in, but I do know that you don’t have to keep letting your husband beat you.

I hope that helps some and I’ll be praying for you!

PLEASE! I need a help, I love my Husband and we have been living together for 2years now. the only problem i have with Him is that he beat me alot and as my husband he suppose to take care of me financially, he doesn’t care please what do you think i should do. because i am getting tired of his character

I know this is a difficult time for you. There is only so much that I can help with, though I’d love to help more. My suggestion would be to find a good Christian counselor to speak to that can help you work through this. You can find Christian counselors through Focus on the Family at:
http://listen.family.org/miscdaily/A000000115.cfm

God has great things in store for you and in putting Him first, He can help you through this. And God has put some wonderful, Godly counselors on this earth to help people just like you. I encourage you 1) to get in touch with a Christian counselor, and 2) that you can get through this, just don’t give up.

I hope that helps and have a blessed day!