Book Drawing Winners for “It’s All About Him”

Thanks to everyone who entered the drawing for a free copy of Denise Jackson’s book “It’s All About Him”.

The drawing has been held and the nine winners have been notified by email.  The books will be sent out via USPS in the next week.

Congratulations to all the winners and let us know how you like the book!

Book Drawing: Free Copy of “It’s All About Him”

We were recently sent a number of copies of “It’s All About Him: Finding the Love of my Life”, the book by Denise Jackson, the wife of country music superstar Alan Jackson.

My wife recently wrote a review of the book and now we have 9 copies to give away via a drawing.

If you live in the continental U.S. and you’d like a free hardcover copy of this book, do the following:

  1. Go to the contact page and send us a message that you’d like to be in the drawing
  2. Include your name, address, and email address

That’s all there is to it.  We’ll hold a drawing on September 1st and notify the winners via email.

*Update: This drawing has expired. The drawing took place on September 1st, 2008 and the winners have been notified.

Book Review: “It’s All About Him”

In this guest post, my wife Lori reviews Denise Jackson’s book “It’s All About Him”.

Denise Jackson, wife of country music superstar Alan Jackson, seemed to have it all.  Married to her high-school sweetheart, she had three beautiful daughters and most anything money could buy.  Her world included mansions, jewelry, luxury cars, and expensive clothing.

But despite the appearance of a perfect life, all was not well.  Denise’s marriage to Alan was crumbling, and she felt lost and alone.  Having spent her entire adult life focused and dependent on her husband, what was she to do once he decided to leave?

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Your Marriage Can Be Resurrected

It’s Easter…when we celebrate the resurrection of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

But before He was resurrected on Sunday, Jesus had to go through Friday of pain and suffering and Saturday of death.

Many husbands and wives are sitting in the middle of their Friday or Saturday when it comes to marriage. There is a lot of pain and suffering or the relationship seems dead.

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The Number One Problem in Marriage

What have you probably heard is the number one problem in marriage?

Often cited as the number one problem is the lack of communication.

I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem, but not the main problem. The lack of communication is purely a symptom of a deeper problem.

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Marriage Article – Dealing With Anger In Your Marriage

As a follow up to my recent Anger Management in Marriage series, I’ve compiled that information into a single marriage article around the area of dealing with anger in marriage.

You can check it out at one of the following article directories.

Please let me know what you think by leaving a comment either here or at the article page.

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Anger Management in Marriage 3: Biblically Dealing with Anger

Last time we talked about how people typically deal with anger towards their husband or wife.

So now what are some Biblical ways to deal with anger in marriage? Here are some brief ways to begin.

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV)

1) Admit to yourself and God that you are angry. There’s no reason for denying it. Plus, as you get it out in the open, you’ll be better prepared to deal with it.

2) Don’t yield to your feelings. If you think you may say or do something that you’ll regret, walk away from the situation until you have control over your emotions. Take a deep breath to bring your physical reactions to anger under control. Realize that YOU are totally responsible for your own actions.

3) Whether the wrong committed against you was real or perceived, intentional or accidental, bring the offense to God and forgive your spouse. Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you. As you get in the habit of actually forgiving your spouse, your anger will lead you into sin less often.

4) Don’t give the devil a foothold by dwelling on the offense. If you’ve forgiven your husband or wife, quit replaying the situation over in your mind. Otherwise, not only will you cause those angry feelings to come back, but you will give the devil the opportunity to add fuel to the fire by telling you how evil your spouse is. This will only serve to send you back to square one, negating any progress you’ve made.

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
Ephesians 4:26-27 (NIV)

Now you have some information to recognize how you may be unhealthily dealing with your anger and some recommendations to begin to deal with your anger in a healthy way.

If you’ve let your anger lead you into sin in the past, ask God to forgive you and let it go. You can’t control what you’ve done in the past, but you can control what you do now and in the future. Start preparing now for the next time you get angry, because the time will come again when you’ll need to deal with it. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you control yourself and diffuse the anger without sinning.

And remember Luke 1:37 “For nothing is impossible with God.”

The three posts in the Anger Management in Marriage series are:

  1. Introduction
  2. Poor Ways of Dealing with Anger
  3. Biblically Dealing with Anger

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Anger Management in Marriage 2: Poor Ways of Dealing with Anger

In the first post, I talked about how everyone eventually gets angry at their spouse, whether it’s over something large or small.

This time we’ll talk about how people typically deal with their anger.

First off, know that the anger itself is not a sin…it’s what you do with it and how you respond to it that can potentially be classified as sin.

I’m not going to over-complicate this post. Generally, there are two ways that people deal with anger.

Many people internalize their feelings of anger. They pretend that nothing is wrong, while pushing any anger that comes back inside. But in trying to avoid dealing with it, unforgiveness and bitterness take root, gradually poisoning their marriage. Turning it inward doesn’t deal with the anger; instead it’s allowed to build up over time. Eventually it results in a blowup or in slowly killing the relationship.

Others externalize it. They turn their anger outward, towards their spouse, kids, or anyone else who gets in their line of fire. They let their feelings lead them to hurt others, either verbally or physically. Many of these people profess that they just “couldn’t control themselves.” This is a person that’s controlled by their emotions, instead of being in control of their emotions. These people will continue to physically or verbally abuse their spouses or kids as long as they can get away with it.

Now, take that same “out of control” person and put them up next to a 300 pound linebacker. Do you think they would control themselves enough to keep from slapping that linebacker around? Oh yeah, because they know they couldn’t get away with that…not without some pretty hefty consequences.

We should never let our feelings of anger cause us to get “out of control.”

Do you fall into one of these categories? Do you internalize or externalize your anger?

Next time I’ll give you some recommendations on Biblically dealing with your anger in your marriage.

The three posts in the Anger Management in Marriage series are:

  1. Introduction
  2. Poor Ways of Dealing with Anger
  3. Biblically Dealing with Anger

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Anger Management in Marriage

At some point, everyone gets angry at their spouse. It could be over something minor like leaving the cap off of the toothpaste, something on a larger scale like their disrespecting you in front of other people, or something much worse.

In marriage, the potential for anger is greater than in other relationships just by the nature of being in such close proximity to someone so often. Your husband or wife will eventually do something that gets on your nerves.

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Where Do You Turn First When You Have Marriage Problems?

Everyone encounters a problem or challenge in their marriage at some point. I know we have.

But where do you seek the answers and solutions to those problems? And more importantly, where do you turn first for guidance?

Do you talk to your friends or co-workers about how bad it is? Do you ask your parents for advice? Do you seek out a counselor?

During marriage troubles, we always want someone to give us the one “silver bullet” that will turn everything around or change our spouse so they “act right”.

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